A thought on what comes from love

The question in love is not so much what we do in love, but what we are about in love.

It is a question about what your spirit produces.

If our actions are like words, what are we stating with our actions? Action is about saying "what should be."

What is the spirit of the thing that we asserting with our actions? In spousal love the spirit of the thing that is asserted is a unitive being, because spousal lovers are acting for "being one".  

In sacramental marital love, the Holy Spirit realizes this aspiration of the spouses: He takes up their aspiration in His spiration and is the consumation of the whole movement of unitive love.

The spouses unite in and agree in their will of being gift to each other, a willing which moves toward a will of giving being. Acting for something says it ought to be.

The fundamental generosity of this unitive gift of being is like or images in a analogous way, the gift that is involved in the Holy Spirit's procession as Gift in the Trinity. The element of uniting in gift that is an aspiration in the spousal love is sufficiently like the spiration that is the Holy Spirit, to be taken up by the Holy Spirit and realized in him.

Jesus said that the Holy Spirit will lead us to all truth. This seems to refer not just to factual truths, but to the way of being gift, and uniting in being gift that can be realized in the Holy Spirit.

 

So...

1. Sacramental marriage is indissoluble because it is taken up in the Holy Spirit;
2. Since unitive love moves toward the realization in a third person, the very vein of the truth of love is contradicted by acting against an other proceeding from love, as in contraception;
3. Unitive love always moves toward the desire and realization of being one, so acting for it is asking for it's realization. Which is why cohabitation contains an inherent contradiction. Ask for it or not, but don't live the contradiction of asking for unity but not accepting unity's indissolubility realized in the Holy Spirit.